Be Her Way Out

     A girl stands in a room of people drinking, knowing very well that if she even takes a sip of the liquid that it'll awaken that intense alcohol addiction within her again that God had slowly been helping her overcome. But the thing is all her friends are doing it, beckoning her to join in and the more she says no knowing her struggle the more awkward the air in the room starts to feel. She looks at the faces of her closest friends her eyes pleading them for a way out, but no one gives it to her.

   A girl heads into the movie theatre dragging her feet behind her excited friends as she buys a ticket for that new romance movie that they wanted to see. She sits down in the theatre chair, the sickening feeling settling in her stomach knowing she's about to watch a movie that is filled with pornographic scenes that will only fill her mind with lustful thoughts that she had been trying to push out, making that desire for men to find her sexually attractive come back. "Aren't you so excited?" her friends ask as she fakes a smile and nods wishing she had a way out.

    A girl sits on her bed surrounded by friends as they all start to talk about that one girl in the friend group who they just can't stand. She winces knowing that they're over exaggerating the girls annoying habits and that they are deteriorating the girls reputation. Her friends look at her for agreement on their biased opinion of their so called "friend", her heart screaming as she had been so easily pulled into these conversations that tore other girls down, and she nodded in agreement. She had tried to stand up before but only received backlashed and she sat there wishing another girl was bold enough to speak up and give her a way out of this hateful conversation.

    A girl cries alone, sorrow and pain and hurt filling her as she feels like a failure. The people she thought she was closest too seemed too of become wolves ready to prey again on her next mistake as she already struggles with feeling as though she has no self worth or value. As another mistake rolls in she braces herself as her friend started to lace hateful words onto her failures. She looks at the distorted faces of the people she thought would care for her the most, wishing that their was a girl to give her grace a girl to give her the way out.



   These are just a few scenarios that girls find themselves in often growing up. I was sitting alone the other day thinking about one of these same scenarios that had happened with a friend. The girl had been struggling with an addiction that her friends around her knew about but she was placed into a situation with them where they had her compromise her battle against addiction to just join in and have fun, since "it wasn't that big of a deal"

  No girl enjoys being the odd one out cause it sucks, it really does. It's hard to be the only one not having fun, the only one not enjoying things, the only one. I realized something, though, as Christian women and sisters in Christ we are never called to let someone be "the only one left out".

 What I mean by this is as Christians we are suppose to be doing two things when it comes to our fellow sisters: knowing them well and being their way out.

1. Knowing them well
     God created humans as relational beings, especially with being followers of Christ we all share a deeper intimacy with each other because of Christ. True friendship is knowing that persons struggles, their downfalls, the things they fail on and being able to "bear" those struggles with them and help to on their journey step-by-step. We are to lift up our sisters, to help them triumph over the temptations that are running wild around them.


"One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother."
                                                                                  - Proverbs 18:24

"Bear one another burdens and in this way fulfill the law of Christ."
                                                                                    - Galatians 6:2


2. Being their way out.
   We need to start being our sisters way out. By knowing our sisters well, knowing the things they struggle most with, we can be on the lookout for when they are maybe needing a way out. Each one of us has known what it feels like to be the odd one out, the only one not giving in so and we know how nice it would've been to have another girl say, "Hey I know this isn't the place you need to be or the thing you need to be doing, so instead of doing this how about me and you go do something else?" Think about the breath of relief you would've of let out to not feel like the only one, to have someone holding you accountable and keeping those struggles you confided to them in the back of their mind.

"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor. If either of them falls down, one can help the other help. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up."
                                                                                                   - Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

  I think it's something as girls we desperately need to work on to allow the sisters around us to grow, as well as allow unbelievers to see the care, concern, and attention we give one another and point it back to Christ first giving us the same care, concern, and attention that we didn't even deserve. So get to know the girls around you, open up about your own struggles, get to know their hearts, and be on the lookout to be a girls way out.

                            "A sweet friendship refreshes the soul."
                                                                                - Proverbs 27:9