To the Girl Who Hates Waiting for Love

          "Sixteen and never been kissed," my grandma said to me after she found out that I still hadn't given away my first kiss. Then that sixteen turned to seventeen and then eighteen, and that phrase still is said every time I visit her.


      I've said it before and I'll say it again, waiting sucks. It really does. I mean I can hardly wait for my coffee to finish brewing in the morning, least wait for something like a boyfriend. It's not exactly the most popular thing to be 18 and not of at least kissed a couple guys. I've always gotten the shocks of surprise or even horror whenever I've revealed that fact about me in a conversation, as if it's something that they would never think to be possible. 

   I've had my chances. I've had guys chase after me, I've gone on a handful of dates... but they never seemed to really go anywhere. A couple weeks later and me and that guy would only see each other as friends, and I didn't understand why I hadn't finally gotten to my love story. Being 100% honest, like every girl in the world, I have nights I wish I had someone to text or someone to post pictures with or a guy to take me out on a date when I'm looking good one night or someone to take me to a school dance. But God made me wait, and He's slowly started to reveal to me why.



1. When "prince charming" doesn't show up when you expect him too, God always does.

     I've always had that timeline in my head of when and how my love story was going to happen. So on those days when I happened to look extra good, and the timing was perfect, and I was just so ready for it to finally happen... it didn't. Then I would go home disappointed, lonely, and hurt.

  Like most girls, too easily I fall into the trap of thinking that my "prince charming" will finally put my life together. That he will complete me, and I will finally be whole once I meet him. God, knowing this, allowed me to be disappointed with who I thought were my "prince charmings" because He knew I needed to know that only He can complete and fulfill me. 



2. Seasons of waiting are to being used by God to mold you, especially seasons of singleness.

    If you asked my high school self if I thought I had room to grow and expand my faith before dating, I would've laughed and said no. At the time I thought my faith strong enough to take on a relationship. Now looking back to even last couple of months I realize how not ready I was to take on something as major as a boyfriend.

  Sometimes it's hard to see that seasons of waiting are really doing much to you, but let me tell you God in even just the past months has taught me and changed my faith in miraculous ways. If I had been tied down these past few months I wouldn't of ever done some of the things I have (such as start this blog). I wouldn't of turned to God in my loneliness to learn how to be filled with Him, and not give in so easily to guys. He has also been teaching me about the right characteristics to look for in a guy (not just tall, dark & handsome haha).




3. Seasons of waiting are also times to pray for your future boyfriend/husband and for yourself

   As a sixteen year old I always found it weird to be praying for my future husband, but two years later and I've learned the importance of it. Pray for the characteristics you want in him, pray that he always puts God over you, pray that God makes him a man after His own heart, pray for him to have strength as he fights temptations wherever he is. 
    Then pray for yourself. Pray that you'll have the same characteristics that you want in your husband in you, pray that you'll be the type of wife he will need, that you'll be a woman after God's own heart. Cause let me tell you God's not going to ignore your desire to become more like Him, it just doesn't happen.

    

     But to every girl out there who is hating this period of waiting she's in, I get you. I'm in one myself and have been in and out of it many times. God showed me those three things that I was always too blind to realize while in seasons of waiting, and many more. So be encouraged as you wait for "prince charming", don't allow the fear of singleness keep you from being all God wants you to be and more. God can use you 10x more as a single girl right now than He ever can. 



   - Rachel